But bisexuality is a legitimate sexual identity, and being bisexual doesn’t mean that person is incapable of being in a committed relationship.
There may be other things about your bi partner that may make them undateable. Being attracted to multiple genders allows bisexuals to be attracted to individuals for far more than just their physical appearance.
Since I was attracted to boys, I just assumed I was straight and ignored the attraction I felt for girls.
I never gave myself the chance to think about it because I was safe where I was.
(At least for me; it was the first time I had identified myself in that way.) A year or so later, when I got pregnant, we went back in to the doctor to confirm and after we had heard our baby's heartbeat for the first time, seen that it was a real being, that our lives were about to change, the nurse comes in to do my examination (my boyfriend had left at this point) and tells me in a sly voice, ' I guess we can cross the bisexual off your chart, can't we?
That was just a phase.'" "I'm a bi/pansexual woman married to a straight man. My parents never said that homosexuality was wrong, but they never really said it was OK either. But my church made it clear to me as a young person that it was only OK to be straight.
(Well, that and “I’m still living in my parent’s basement.”) That fear often stems from a misunderstanding of what it means to be bisexual.
The sexualization stems from visualizing bisexuality not as a sexual identity on par with heterosexuality or homosexuality, but as a sex act.
Not only have these beliefs been damaging to my queer identity, but at times they’ve also caused me to question the integrity of my sexuality.
For most of my life, I’ve struggled with being bisexual.
I also started to realize that strict monogamy may not be the best idea for me.
I would very much like to be able to love more than one person, but my husband is and wants us to remain strictly monogamous. I think my parents would accept my bisexuality, especially since I'm married to a man and therefore not actually dating women, but they're still busy processing the fact that I'm not Christian.